Advice Soft Swapping Couples

Are you sure Soft Swapping is for you?

Swinging has most definitely evolved from the original wife swapping of the 70s and with the advent of the internet it is easier than ever, and feels less seedy, than ever before! With sites such as ours you can easy put up your personal ad specifying exactly what type of swinging you are up for and find contacts accordingly. Plus with the chat rooms that are an integral part of the site you can get to know other swingers before you meet up so you feel more comfortable and use the chats to find out more about what goes on if you are new to the scene.

What to consider first...

Swinging in any form as a couple must be a joint decision - obviously we don't mean the physical act of it but the decision to try it, you really must not force your partner into this even if it is agreed that no penetrative sex will take place. If you are thinking of trying this to add something to a flagging marriage/relationship then it could be the worse thing for you, it really does take a strong couple to be able to swing or swap with no issues.

The green eyed monster!

Following on from the last point above, you must both be sure that you can handle seeing your spouse or partner being intimate with another person, even though you have decided that you wont be swapping for penetrative sex and you have set limits for what can/can't be done it can be a shock when it first happens. Make sure that you and your partner have both fully discussed this side of things in a serious manner, it is very easy to get all hot & bothered looking at porn together and fantasing what it is like.

Our top ten advice lines:

• Don't make a snap decision to go swinging until you are both happy
• Register free and upload your basic profile, you can add to it later
• Have a good look around the site and read articles on the forums & blogs
• Use the chat room, both together and individually to get comfortable with the talk
• Make it clear on your profile that you only want soft swaps
• It is a good idea to meet somewhere public first so you can get to know them
• Maybe not chose a swingers club/party as your first 'outing'
• Don't be afraid to say 'No' it will be respected if you don't want to do something
• Don't drink too much, as it can impair your experience or make you fail to perform
• Ask to go to their's or a hotel so you can 'get out' if you feel uncomfortable

Soft swinging shouldn't be stressful so just relax, enjoy the experience and don't be afraid to ask more questions!

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